At Healing Journey Collective, our therapists in Calgary are trained in the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy, a highly researched and evidence-based approach that helps partners build stronger, more connected, and lasting relationships.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Drs. John and Julie Gottman identified seven key principles that guide couples toward healthy, fulfilling partnerships:
Enhance Love Maps – Deepen knowledge of each other’s world.
Nurture Fondness and Admiration – Focus on appreciation and positive regard.
Turn Toward Instead of Away – Respond to bids for attention and connection.
Let Your Partner Influence You – Share power and value your partner’s perspective.
Solve Solvable Problems – Use constructive conflict resolution skills.
Overcome Gridlock – Address perpetual issues with compassion and understanding.
Create Shared Meaning – Build rituals, goals, and values that give your relationship purpose.
These principles provide couples with practical tools to strengthen intimacy, improve communication, and foster resilience.
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
The Gottmans also discovered four communication patterns that predict relationship distress if left unaddressed:
Criticism – Attacking your partner’s character rather than addressing behavior.
Contempt – Expressing disrespect, sarcasm, or superiority.
Defensiveness – Meeting concerns with counter-attacks instead of openness.
Stonewalling – Shutting down, withdrawing, or refusing to engage.
Our therapists help couples identify and replace these destructive patterns with healthier, more constructive ways of relating.
Who is Couples Therapy For?
Couples therapy can support you if:
- You feel stuck in the same arguments
- Communication often escalates or shuts down
- You’re navigating trust issues or betrayal
- You feel emotionally disconnected
- You’re preparing for marriage or major life transitions
- You want to strengthen an already good relationship
What Can Couples Therapy Help With?
Couples we work with often come in for:
- Communication challenges
- Conflict resolution
- Infidelity or trust repair
- Emotional disconnection
- Parenting stress
- Cultural or identity differences in relationships
- Life transitions (new baby, career changes, relocation)
What to Expect in Couples Therapy
Our process is structured and supportive:
- Assessment Phase We explore your relationship history, strengths, and challenges.
- Feedback & Goal Setting You receive a clear roadmap based on Gottman insights.
- Ongoing Sessions We work on communication, connection, and conflict skills.
Sessions are collaborative, practical, and focused on real change—not just talking in circles.
Do You Offer Virtual Couples Therapy in Alberta?
Yes. We offer both:
- In-person couples therapy in Calgary
- Virtual therapy across Alberta
Is Couples Therapy Covered by Insurance?
If you have coverage for a Registered Psychologist in Alberta, sessions may be reimbursed depending on your plan.
Why Choose Healing Journey Collective?
- Registered Psychologist in Calgary
- Gottman Method Level 3 trained
- Trauma-informed and culturally responsive care
- Experience working with diverse and immigrant communities
- Warm, relational, and practical approach
Our Approach
At Healing Journey Collective, we integrate the Gottman Method with other supportive therapeutic approaches, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This allows us to tailor therapy to each couple’s unique needs—whether you are looking to strengthen your connection, rebuild trust, navigate conflict, or create a shared vision for your future.
Ready to take the next step?
Book a complimentary 15-minute consultation with one of our Calgary-based therapists trained in the Gottman Method and start your healing journey today.